Leman, Growing Up Firstborn, New York: Delacorte Press, 1989, 23
Why are firstborns treated differently from later children? I believe it has a lot to do with the fact that firstborns are not allowed to be children for very long…
Many parents seem to view their firstborn children as older than they really are. They expect them to grow up too fast, and they also expect them to set a good example for all of the children who follow them.
Firstborns are expected to be the smartest, the best-behaved, the best-looking, the most conscientious, the strongest, and so on.